Less is more when it comes to making college friendships

Whether you are a freshman leaving home for the first time, a junior who has just switched majors or a senior in preparation for “adult life,” one thing everyone has in common is experience with change.

As someone who is starting her third year of college, it is inevitable I will stop and think back on my college career and all the change that has occurred in my life personally and professionally. Throughout all those transformations, the hardest — and the greatest — one is keeping and losing friends.

Before attending California Baptist University, I graduated from a small, private Christian school that teaches pre-kindergarten through 12th grade. My graduating class was about 150 students.

Transitioning from a small class of 150 to a class of more than 1,000 students was difficult. I was ready to meet new people and make life-long friends. If you have the mindset I had, you may be let down, but it is certainly for the best.

Truthfully, you may never see the person you met during orientation again and your roommate might not stay your friend after one year of living together.

Even though it is ideal to make or stay friends with every person with whom you come in contact with during your time at CBU, it is OK not to. “The more the merrier” does not apply with friendships. In fact, “less is more” is more applicable to friendships in college.

Eventually, you will have a handful of close friends. It could consist of the person you randomly meal-swiped for, the hall mates who always left their door open to hang out or even the person you chatted with while you were waiting for Chick-fil-A to call your name for that Spicy Chicken Sandwich.

Although our campus is filled with thousands of people, you only need to fill your life with a few.
Those few that encourage you and never grow tired of you are the life-long friends everyone is guaranteed to meet.

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