February 21, 2024

For ages, when war arises, men and women are sent off to battle and even during peace times they are sent away for months at a time during deployments and basic training.

During the past few years, the slogan “support our troops” has become extremely popular in the United States but what about supporting the families left behind?

Being separated from your significant other in any circumstance isn’t easy but being alone for months at a time with the fear of them never coming home is even more difficult. Often, the thought of “they’re doing something noble and good” isn’t comforting enough to cope for those long months of separation.

If you are in a relationship with someone in the military, here are some helpful tips to pass the long months ahead:

1. Stay Busy.

The last thing you need to do is sit around the house being miserable. Surround yourself with endearing people who support you. The more the people know what you’re going through, the better. Have lunch with an older military spouse who can advise you or friends who are going through the same thing. Also, spend time with your family. They want the best for you more than anyone. Don’t mope around thinking the worst even when you are out.

2. Write, Write, Write.

If your significant other is in basic training and doesn’t have access to a phone or computer, don’t wait to hear from them to start writing. Throughout the day, you’ll think of things you want to say to them but can’t because they don’t have a phone so write it. Write them every day. Another way to channel your emotions is to journal. It’s a great way to get feelings out that you don’t feel you can say to other people.

3. Plan for the Future.

Just because your significant other is gone doesn’t mean you can’t plan for their return. Make plans for surprise dates or family vacations when they come home. Instead of being sad that you are separated, get excited about how much stronger the relationship will be after enduring something this hard.

4. Pray, Pray, Pray.

There is no such comfort like God’s love. Trust in the fact that God knows what is going to happen every day before it happens and trust that He would never give you more than you can handle. Pray for His comfort and guidance for the hardships ahead and know that everything will be OK.

For dealing with the treacherous months, or in some cases years ahead, there are many things that can be done to remain positive. Whether it’s all prayer or a combination of the list above, know that men and women around the country are going through exactly what you are coping with and have been for centuries. You are not alone.