In the beginning, God said that it is not good for man to be alone and so He created Eve. Therefore, it can be understood that we are designed to have relationships with others: friends, siblings, family and significant others. However, maintaining these various connections can sometimes be a challenge.
In this time and era, developing and sustaining relationships has changed from previous generations. Due to technological advancements, people can connect through Facebook, eHarmony or any other social networking sites. Even though things like technology change the way we communicate with one another, the fundamentals of respect, honesty and so forth still apply.
Starting relationships for the most part is not difficult, however, to build and keep it takes effort and work. While there is no set list of rules to maintaining a healthy relationship, there are key components that can make or break the bond.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
The Golden Rule has to be one of the best paradigms regarding respect. Matthew 7:12 says, “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Establishing respect for one another can establish boundaries and reduce conflict.
Acceptance
The saying “just be yourself” may sound cliché but there is truth behind it. If the person really likes being around you then they will accept you for who you are, faults and all. Do not settle for people who do not accept the real you because it is not healthy or fair to be someone else just to suit them.
Nothing but the truth
If there is no trust, then there can really be no relationship. No matter the circumstance, telling the truth is essential. By being transparent, it can help prevent miscommunication and hurt feelings. If not, the feelings of suspicion can hurt the relationship in the long run. Honesty is always the best policy.
Communicate, communicate, communicate
Not only can talking help you get to know the person better and break down barriers, it can also help resolve concerns, issues or conflicts. This concept cannot be stressed enough because the lack of communication can lead to serious consequences such as regret, resentment or hurt feelings. If there is an issue, talk to the person in a rational matter that does not attack, blame or judge them.
Compromise
Sometimes it can be hard to remember that things are not always going to go your way. It is all about keeping the balance of give and take. If the relationship develops into a power struggle, the relationship could turn sour fast.
Forgiveness
This has to be one of the most important and difficult aspects to maintaining a healthy relationship because everyone makes mistakes. As Matthew 6:14-15 says, “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Whether your relationship status with friends, family or significant others is just beginning or has been there for a while, these key components can help you sustain successful and healthy relationships in the long run.
