Zack Mullings -- Heartbreak may take time to heal, but happiness is never out of reach.
“I think we should see other people,” “It’s not you it’s me,” “I just need space,” “Your friendship means way too much to me to risk it”; these lines and so many more are generic sayings one would say to their former significant other.
These words either come across as a thousand bees stinging your face or perhaps they are a wave of relief. However, there is always a chance that someone is going to get their heart broken when hearing these words, so here are a few helpful tips to help you get over it.
If this breakup happened recently, I am sure you are thinking about the dreadful day of Feb. 14 that occurs in less than a month. Have no fear, there are a multitude of events you can partake in that day to keep your mind off of it.
So the time comes when the person you thought was the end all be all does not see you in their future plans.
The first thing you need to remember is not to cry when you are with them. Even if it comes to you as a surprise that he or she does not want to be with you, do not cry.
Moments after this happens let them do the talking; instead of bursting into a futile rage, take a breath. The whole purpose is to stay calm and listen to what they have to say; maybe they will shed some light onto something you did not realize, or perhaps it wont, either way, you could learn something about their reasoning.
Once they have said all that they needed to say, you may take a couple days to think about their reasoning before you talk to them or ask them any more questions. Do not ever think that getting closure is bad, everyone deserves answers and should be able to tie up loose ends, but if you cannot be composed the day it happens, give it a couple days before getting closure.
After you end things in your mind, it is time to start the process of getting over your ex.
Since this was a hard breakup, time does heal some things but it does not heal everything. Give yourself at most two days of heartache. This includes crying on a friend’s shoulder, eating your favorite ice cream and watching your favorite sappy movies.
After your days of recovery comes time to participate in activities that will keep your mind off of things.Here are five great activities you can do to get over your breakup.
The first is physical activity. This will not only make you feel better, but it will make you look better and get into shape. Running the Lancer loop, going to the gym, joining an intramural team or signing up for a marathon will give you things to occupy your time.
The second activity to get your mind off of things is finding ways to get involved with your school. Try going to as many events as possible. This not only will fill up your time, but will get you more immersed in your school. Attending sporting events, choir concerts and supporting other activities on campus will help you meet new people and possibly find some new hobbies you enjoy.
The third activity you can participate in is to write about it. Holding everything inside is no good for anyone, so write a journal, diary or blog.
The fourth activity is to get a parttime job. Working on campus is always fun and you never have to spend money on gas. If you do not want to work on campus, the Galleria at Tyler is full of retail and food locations where you can apply. This will help occupy your time, so you do not have to sit around thinking about your heartache.
The final and most important thing you can do is to dive into God’s word, realizing God’s will and knowing that no matter what happens He has a purpose. Reading His word and focusing on your relationship with Him rather than your relationships on earth will help you realize that God’s love is everlasting and will shine when all else fades.
Whether you choose these activities or something else that will be beneficial to you in the end, the main key is taking your mind off the individual who gave you heartache. Even though they may have ended things with you, you are the one who has control of what you are going to do about it.
Life is too short to waste time being heartbroken about something that was not meant to be. Who knows, life may bring you two back together at some point and right now may just not be good timing.
Whatever it may be, using your time wisely will make things a lot easier. Heartbreak is hard, but as long as you have God, good friends and the willpower to move on, your life will be blessed.
It may be easier said than done, but the most important thing to remember is that God’s plan is perfect. With faith and trust, there will always be a silver lining in the rain cloud.
